My friend only reaches out when they need something. How do I bring it up without ending the friendship?

Name the pattern, not the motive — those land very differently. "I've noticed we mostly talk when you need something" is honest and specific. "You're using me" assumes intent you can't actually prove, even if it's what it feels like. A few things that help the conversation go well: 1. Pick a calm moment, not right after the latest ask — bringing it up in the moment reads as retaliation even when it isn't. 2. Say what you'd actually want instead: "I'd really like it if we talked sometimes when neither of us needs anything." That gives them something to do with the feedback, not just something to feel bad about. 3. Leave room for them to not have realized it. A lot of people genuinely don't notice this pattern in themselves until it's named gently. If the conversation changes things, that's worth knowing. If it doesn't — if the pattern just continues after you've named it clearly — that's worth knowing too, because now you have real information instead of just a feeling.