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I keep over-apologizing at work and I think it's hurting how people see me. How do I stop?

Suppose someone notices they say "sorry" constantly at work, for things that aren't actually their fault, and suspects it's quietly costing them credibility. How does a person actually break that habit?
MAsked by Marcus
Sep 18, 2026 · 0 views

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The fix isn't "stop apologizing," it's "reserve sorry for things that are actually yours." A few swaps: 1. "Sorry for the delay" becomes "Thanks for your patience." Same message, no admission of fault that isn't there. 2. "Sorry, can I ask a question" becomes just asking the question. A question doesn't need an apology attached to it. 3. "Sorry, I just think..." becomes "I think..." — notice how often "sorry" is doing nothing but softening an opinion you're actually allowed to have. 4. Save "sorry" for when you actually caused a problem — then say it once, clearly, and move to what you're doing about it, rather than repeating it. This isn't about becoming blunt or cold — it's about making sure the apology still means something when you actually need it, instead of being background noise that signals you expect to be at fault by default.
MMarcus· Sep 18, 2026

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